Dating Darwinism: Survival of The Fittest

When you date someone exclusive it's the tall grass before the open field of the "real" chase. The space "before" we get to the exclusivity is full of fun, honesty, limited expectations and the pressure to "not" have pressure, for fear that it will mess things up. That period of euphoric ignorance to what the other is doing, thinking or saying, because you're in your own world of figuring out what you want and what you don't want, is pure bliss. Once the other prospects are weeded out, and the two of you decide that you just want to be with each other, don't be mislead to believe in a long exhale and infinite rest on cloud 9.

All the vetting and rigors of the "we're just friends" phase, advances to a higher level of keeping each other interested and happy once you decide to be more than friends. You must now keep yourself relevant in your significant other's life. You must continue to show him/her your value, because there's always someone else watching and waiting for the ball to be dropped, so that they can pick it up and start playing. You must learn how to balance your vulnerability while still maintaining an edge that sets you apart from the other hopefuls, and that thin line sways and wiggles as you try to walk it.

It's all about survival of the fittest. We are ALL constantly evolving. Some of us get bigger, better, stronger.........and some just don't. The latter becomes complacent or naive, oblivious to the threats that may cause the demise of what they worked hard to achieve. If you chose to stay stagnant ........watch that light in your significant other's eyes begin to dim. Prepare for a relationship lacking in excitement, curiosity, exploration and growth. But....if you strive to step up; sexually, mentally, physically, while nourishing your soul and your spirit, you'll either be the victor of their heart OR of the heart of someone better. Yes there will be ups and downs. There will be moments of rest and there will be times for action. Just be mindful, be aware and DON'T BECOME EXTINCT!