Ladies, Please Put It In Your Mouth

I'm not sure of when the first fellatio session took place, but whoever she was, she must've been damn good, because many men today seem to act as if they can't live without it. Some even appear to prefer "it" over conventional sexual methods. Like it or not, it's here to stay, and if you're the type of woman that believes in not giving your man any reason to wander, it's time to sharpen those sucking skills!

There are a number of aids available to help you level up. Visual aids can be a healthy educational tool when used properly. A visual aid can show you many different techniques, which can help you experiment with a variety of pleasurable styles, since no penis is the exact same. There's mouth/tongue action, deep throat action, mouth/hand action, concentrated tip action, slobbery spit action, ball swirling action.....the possibilities are bountiful! One of my favorite techniques to incorporate is what I like to call "the back of the d**k flick". This is when you flick your tongue up, down and around that sensitive area located between the gonads (nuts) and anus. I can almost guarantee that your significant other will appreciate being the guinea pig for all of your experimentation, once you decide on the techniques you'd like to try.

Another aid that I recommend trying is an edible, flavorful lubricant. My all time favorite product "Good Head" oral delight gel by Doc Johnson, https://www.docjohnson.com/goodhead is the BOMB dot com.

It has multiple uses for both men and women, and when used on a man, not only is it great for hand jobs, but the sweet taste can make you forget what's actually in your mouth. Pick a flavor that you like such as cherry, cinnamon, grape, watermelon, etc. They even have a passion fruit flavor that mimics the cooling of an ice cube, without the drippy mess.

Using these fun flavors is just like having a Tootsie Blow-Pop, https://www.tootsie.com/candy/charms/charms-blow-pops , and I think we all know how to devour a Blow-Pop. As a matter of fact, you should consider buying a Blow-Pop or two; taking note of the technique you use when licking and sucking the hard candy in order to get down to the chewy, gooey gum. Believe it or not it's wonderful practice.

For those that just don't like fellatio no matter the aid (despite your partner's desire), explore the basis for your aversion. If it's sexual trauma, this is something that should never be taken lightly. Sexual trauma if left untreated and unexplored can cause a sexual roadblock, preventing you from enjoying a pleasurable, healthy sex life, which can in turn also leave your mate unfulfilled. Sexual traumatic responses can also permeate into other areas of your life outside of the bedroom leading to addiction, conflict, stress, and depressive behaviors, to name a few. Individual and couples counseling with the right Therapist can guide you on the right path towards healing and wholeness. Therapy in general can help you release any chain that keeps you in bondage. If you're an individual or a couple that wants help keeping your love and sex life alive, here's my advice; "free your mind and your mouth shall follow".